You know the day when you learn about sex at your middle, junior-high, high school, and sometimes primary or elememtary school? They cover a lot of concepts such as wet dreams, masturbation, etc. There is one thing they mostly do not cover, and that is, how this applies to LGBTQIA people. I am here to provide you with some interesting insight on what could hopefully be useful to you. Actually, some schools are incorporating that boys can have periods, too. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2018/12/16/boys-can-have-periods-schoolchildren-taught-latest-victory-transgender/
So, let us begin. What is a wet dream? A wet dream is a biological function found in all mammals. It occurs in the rapid-eye-movement of sleep and behaves the same way as any normal dream. Our bodies sex mechanism is active during this dream caused by testosterone, the hormone responsible for libido. This gets triggered by ideas, images, sounds, smells, touch, and internal sensations. As you know, males generally have higher testosterone than females, because their primary hormone is oestrogen. We call this stage Nocturnal emission because it happens when you are sleeping, and your brain is working your body, which is locked in place so you do not act out your dream. Some sexomnia disorders do exist. Some people who experience out of body experiences may also have sexual hallucinations and orgasms that may cause them to project.
Now that you have a general understanding of what a wet dream is and how it works, let us look at how this can apply to people who are in the GLBTQIA community. One thing to keep in mind is that people who are attracted to, or who are not attracted to the same sex, both or all sexes, or neither is the key to knowing what kind of dreams they will have.
Let me explain what happens in these cases. In biological males, the penis enlarges, hardens and becomes erect. They experience a sensation of heat surging through that area only. Biological females, on the other hand, experience a similar sensation. It begins with a slight feeling as if an electric tingle were running through their body, followed by this sensation that they want to cuddle their mate. As this intensifies, the entire body becomes heated. So, in biological males, only the penis is heated while everything is heated in biological females, and breast soreness and or burning may be felt, sometimes accompanied with hot flushes depending on age. Also, since male neurochemistry is set to plant the seed they tend to soly focus on that task visually while female neurochemistry is set to finding the best-fitting mate, and therefore are better at selecting them not only by how they look, but by other cues such as sound and smell.
For transgender folks, however, this can be quite embarrassing when a male-to- female wakes up to find evidence of their dream and they wish to find a way to reverse those dreams so that it would gradually dissipate. How do we achieve this task for transgender, gender-nonconforming, and nonbinary individuals??
1. Be aware of who you like and why.
2. Start noticing how your body responds to when you are attracted to that person. and how your mind responds to that, as well.
3. If possible, try to get away from an activity so you can let your mind become more attuned to your body. We call this process somatics.
4. Think about how you would dream about this person, and how it would feel and why you feel this way.
If you keep doing this your brain’s neurochemistry should change gradually, and soon your wet dreams should change. For the male-to- females, their wet dreams will disappear, and, since we still do not have a way of making a fully-functioning female reproductive system–we are working on it, all they might get is a surge of oxytocin and endorphins, neurotransmitters responsible for love and bonding.
For the female-to-males, they would have to learn to only feel one part of their body get heated.
We hope that with the advancement of transhuman technology, we will be able to better transmit the sensations and arousals of different sexes and genders. In the meantime, keep practicing these simple exercises and you would have slowly rewired your brain.